Grateful by Brandy Lidbeck

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The following was written for the Survivors of Suicide Loss newsletter (page 3).

Today, I am grateful for the lessons I have learned through the devastation of suicide. I love others in their greatest time of pain because I remember what it was like when others moved on and forgot my daily grief. I make a big deal out of my kids’ birthdays and decorate their cakes so they know how incredibly valued and treasured they are. Something I, myself, questioned when my mom took her own life. Today, I realize I have the power to ensure my kids know the value of speaking about their thoughts and feelings and never fearing they will appear weak if they need to ask for help. Something I wish my military cousin knew before he took his own life. I am thankful I recognize my own self-care is as important to me as it is to my family. They all benefit when I choose to take care of myself. These are all lessons I learned through the devastation of suicide. I experienced tremendous grief but I am a better friend, mom, and wife because I choose to love others and myself fully!

I cannot change the past. I can; however, make certain my kids and husband know their value. I will take care of myself because my life matters to those that love me most. Today I am grateful for the love and wisdom I have gained from the pain and devastation of suicide. I would change the past if I could, but I cannot. Instead, I will change the next generation in my home and ensure that we love ourselves and others well and intentionally. 
Survivors of Suicide Loss is a group in the San Diego, California area though their support reaches far and wide. If you are in the area, please get in touch with them. If you would like to begin receiving their monthly newsletter, you can click this link.

4 Responses

  1. Julie Harris
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    Very lovely Brandy!

  2. Denise Varga
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    Very good teaching. We all have to take care of ourselves. Telling our family and friends we love them and being involved in their accomplishments and lifting them up in their lows. We are all on our own paths. We have to realize we are each other’s support and also be involved as much as possible! Smile at someone and make their day!!!

  3. Joann
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    I love how you are taking care of yourself, and then others. Making your family feel so important and special is so wonderful for their self esteem. We all love a little deeper, feel more deeply for others in pain now that we have been there. Thank you for your story, it certainly is one that teaches us all a lesson.

  4. Brook sanders
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    ❤️ I am glad someone other than myself realizes that through tragedy we can still grow and allow it to make us better.

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