Recently, the folks over at Seleni wrote an article about “How to cope when someone you love completes suicide and how to help someone at risk.” It’s a great article and worth the read. They even asked me to contribute some of my own experience:
“Brandy Lidbeck was just 10 years old when her mother completed suicide. After what she believed society considered an “appropriate” period of grieving – about a year – Brandy tried to put the death out of her mind.
Once the initial shock wore off, Lidbeck’s family didn’t talk much about her mother or how her death affected everyone else – the “suicide survivors.” Others in the community didn’t bring it up either, tiptoeing around the subject whenever it came up. “We moved shortly after she killed herself, so the family photos came down and never went back up,” says the California resident, now 35 with three kids of her own. “I shut it all up inside me. And any time I did start to feel emotional about it years later, I would think, ‘What’s wrong with me? I should be over this by now.'”