Please don’t get me wrong, I am so saddened to hear of the death of Kate Spade. It hurts my heart physically to hear the word suicide in any situation. However, I am so conditioned to look for it when certain groups of people die. Were they young? Did they have an illness? Was an accident reported in the area recently? Bingo. I’d put my money on the death being a suicide. Yet, I am still shocked when I hear it.
That aside, I am so tired of reading “but she was so successful, she had everything, she was on top of the world.” I don’t want to sound insensitive, but isn’t it quite insensitive to insinuate that she shouldn’t die by suicide because she was rich and famous, but my love could? How fantastic for the rich and famous if mental illness discriminated and only got every day Joes.
How is it that the minute a celebrity is diagnosed with cancer, enters rehab, etc. we hear about it immediately, but never of those who suffer from mental illness? Tabloids can’t wait to report on the latest round of unfortunate medical news in Hollywood. There is such a stigma placed on mental illness that getting help is viewed as shameful in our society. If you seek help you are weak. If you suffer from mental illness you are disgraceful. At least everyday Joes don’t have the tabloids reporting on their goings on to worry about, only the shame within their circle. We, as a society, must find a way to reduce the stigma on mental illness and lift up those brave enough to seek help.
In a perfect world, suicide would get no one, but please don’t assume that everyday Joes are more deserving of dying by suicide because they “don’t have it all, aren’t on top of the world, and don’t have everything.” #RIPTommy 11/1/1978-8/14/2015